Monday, 29 March 2010
Rose Tremain Music and Silence
I've always loved this sentence. Is it something about the female creature? I think it's there in our modern female characters - Meg Ryan in When Harry Met Sally, Bridget Jones and surely Carrie Bradshaw. But yet isn't it also there in Elizabeth Bennett? We like to be unique - but not too much hence the importance of the word 'little'. If we're too unique who will dig deep enough to get to know us? Will our eccentricity put others off? But a little unique is that something we all desire to be on occasions?
The two things which reminded me of this...
I've been experimenting with perfume and although this next bit is by no means unique, it is unique to Warmth. I've been layering my scent with his Paul Smith. It's not me using his scent, he never wears it, but it's the 'woman wearing a man's scent' thing. And that is also what's appealing about being a little unique - it's different to everyone. My 'little uniqueness' to you is somebody elses 'quite normal'.
Secondly, as we get to know others more we reveal our thoughts, hopes, daydreams and sometimes daft thoughts. That moment of 'What are you thinking?' and it's something really random. Do you pretend it was erudite or do you just think 'Oh let's go with the truth.' Warmth looked at me and laughed when the other day I shared this thought.
'I was so busy thinking about what I was going to wear that I forgot to put my bra on.' What makes this unique for me is not the thinking of what to wear but that I don't have the bust of someone who ever goes without their bra, even in a small flat. What makes it unique to him is that anyone could think of what to wear that much to be forgetful.
So what's your 'little uniqueness' in this world?
Saturday, 27 March 2010
Thursday, 25 March 2010
What would you imagine with this office view?
Would you sit on the sofa or the chair? Imagine a roaring fire in the winter or the windows wide open in the summer, observing the world passing by below..source
Oh to eat, drink, discuss, laugh, cry and write at this table....
Or do you prefer to write in public places?
So where dear reader do you write?
Tuesday, 23 March 2010
'So they are all in that quilt, my hopes and fears, my joys and sorrows, my loves and hates. I tremble sometimes when I remember what that quilt knows about me.' Excerpt from a letter by Ohion Woman who spent 25 years stitching one quilt. (I don't know where I found this quote from. Looking back through my quote book it was in 1998. It may have been from a quilting exhibition at Olympia or else a Shaker exhibition. Both were around this time.)In my late twenties I fancied trying to make a quilt. I started saving fabric from favourite clothes, which I would no longer wear. Somehow it didn't seem extravagant discarding or deciding against an item of clothing if it was going to be reused in a quilt. I visited a cousin who'd made a quilt to get help, my mother gave me a book she had on quilting, and I went to those exhibitions. I cut out paper templates and began to find a place to store the books and fabric. But the cutting and sewing? Well no that didn't happen, and has never happened. I do look at classes in quilting but the ones I find are always day time – a hobby for the retired it is seemingly saying. Although no it's not is it? Think of Tracy Emin. Why was I drawn to quilting? I fondly remember the one my Grandmother made and unpicking memories from the fabric – the dress we wore as five year olds to a family wedding, my Grandfather's tie... Memories which would have been lost to me if not for that quilt. These quilts hold the memories and stories of those who made them, but also of those who remember the fabric.
Monday, 22 March 2010
and if it weren't for our upcoming holiday I may have bought a second.
Maybe I'll put it on a birthday wish list....
Saturday, 20 March 2010
Friday, 19 March 2010
So, that's why I love Friday Evening in Selfridges. I've always loved it. When single I looked forward to a Friday evening mooch by myself before meeting friends or going home. I still relish wandering by myself and returning to Warmth, meeting him or friends later. Even if I don't buy tonight I've still had a fabulous time and think about what I may buy another time. Yes, the whole Friday Evening in Selfridges is a 'gesture of optimism' to me.
'Buying clothes is a gesture of optimism about the future...' L. Grant Vogue November 1996
Thursday, 18 March 2010
Wednesday, 17 March 2010
Tuesday, 16 March 2010
I've ordered quite a few lovely things from Papermash. Sign up for the newsletter you'll receive discount codes. When my order arrived there was a hand written note saying 'Thank you for supporting small businesses' What will you order from Papermash?
Monday, 15 March 2010
And the white rose breathes of love;
O the red rose is a falcon,
And the white rose is a dove.
Sunday, 14 March 2010
'I want my daughters to be beautiful, accomplished and good; to be admired, loved and respected; to have a happy youth, to be well and wisely married, and to lead useful, pleasant lives, with as little care and sorrow to try them as God sees fit to send. ' Louisa May Alcott Little Women
I'm not a mother but my mother has two daughters. I'm not sure what her wishes were for us when she first held us in her arms. Did she hope we'd be beautiful? I think probably 'admired, loved and respected.' I thank my parents for our happy youth. I know she wished us to be wisely married and for me that was a wish she waited a long time for. In fact I often think that she worried about me meeting the right man far more than I ever did. But then she didn't know about the possibilities that filled my daydreams, I just shared the tears when those hopes were over. And now she can relax. And thankfully the sorrow we've shared as a family and with friends.
With love this Mothers' Day x
Friday, 12 March 2010
I shopped in there tonight to buy my Mother's Day card and gift and bought. Today I'm going to share Merci Liberty. A pop up room - oh I wish it would pop up in my home. I was tempted by much, feel restrained in what I bought and hope to return again soon..
I've always loved bracelets, I think due to being a teenager during Aha worship and also that whole 'I went to France this summer and so have brought back with me lots of friendship bracelets' type fashion. As I've grown up the string has been replaced but I still like that look. So this was perfect for me. At the moment I'm wearing it around my neck but tomorrow who knows... The one I've chosen is white with pink roses - perfect for when summer arrives.
What else tempted me but I didn't buy - well this time?
How could one resist this? The perfect brown envelope.
No matter how small your flat there's always space for one more cushion...
To explain more about Merci here's a sections of what's written on the flyer. Merci - it's an idea in answer to those questions: How can we give? How can we help? Merci's founders, Marie-France and Bernand Cohen, who after selling Bonpoint, imagined this unique place. The founders won't take any wages out of this business and will transfer all its profits to a foundation in they established to help the poorest children, especially in Madagascar.
If you're in London in the next few weeks do pop in or else pop online.
Thursday, 11 March 2010
Wednesday, 10 March 2010
Salman Rushdie Midnight's Children
Looking back through my books of quotations a recurring theme is this question of Who am I? How have I become who I am? and Who/How will I be in the future? How did the baby become the girl become the woman I am today? Where will I jouney next? What would life have looked like if I'd met someone earlier? If I had children? If I hadn't met Warmth? How do the journeys of my parents, grandparents shape the journey of my life? How will I shape The Blessings lives? I love the idea of me shaping life after I've gone - and not because I'm great but because I lived and connected with people. And I love that it's all exactly the same but completely different for you.
Tuesday, 9 March 2010
I love that inexplicable relationship between something that one person loves and another person loathes. I think it's especially true when we're in a relationship - sometimes men just don't get it. SJP - case in point. Ruffles, bows and corsages - case in point. I'm in the strange place of having never really been a jeans and jumpers girl but Warmth likes me best in those clothes. We meet in the middle, and I am learning to wear jeans and jumpers. However sometimes I just need to dress up - a ruffle, a corsage, a random necklace, a frill on a skirt and heaven forfend the 'pussy bow' blouse.
What do you have that you love to wear but is disliked by others? And do you continue to wear it anyway?
Sunday, 7 March 2010
Saturday, 6 March 2010
Friday, 5 March 2010
'I can't think of any occasion – a tea party even – without seeing an exact picture of how I shall look at it, down to shoes and stockings. I often wonder how social life –or life at all – can be pleasure to people who don't care about dress. I'd hardly get myself out of bed in the morning if I hadn't something pretty and rather new to put on, and never get myself to a party.' Nancy Mitford The Blessings
Albertine to Juliette after she'd missed the ball as her new dress wasn't ready. (I wouldn't miss a party for not having something to wear now that's just silly) How much time do you spend thinking about what to wear? I spend lots of time, probably too much time but I do enjoy it, especially when I'm going to a wedding – which I am tomorrow. Off to have my nails painted.
Thursday, 4 March 2010
Wednesday, 3 March 2010
As I walked to work this morning I thought I could now post my Mitford quotation about blossom. However now I'm home - it's cold and I'd like tea and chocolate cake and so this quote seems more apt for my feelings.
'Unfortunately, it never seemed to be chocolate cake and silver teapot day when Lady Montdore came.'
Nancy Mitford Love in a Cold Climate
Newly married Fanny in Oxford. When are your silver teapot days?
Tuesday, 2 March 2010
I have the delight of having a twin sister, henceforward known as Twin. We had always teased my father that he could buy 'four for under £2000' (meaning four diamond studs for our four earlobes). When twin married 10 years ago my parents gave me an extra birthday gift which were diamond studs saying.
'So you know that we love you and are here for you as much as your sister, even though in the next few weeks we maybe focusing on her.'
And do you know the most wonderful thing of all is that I didn't need these beautiful earrings to know that.
I love this quotation - it makes me smile.
'A woman of my age needs diamonds near her face, to give it a sparkle.' Nancy Mitford Love in a Cold Climate
What diamond jewellery would you chose?
Monday, 1 March 2010
'Friendship is something to be built up carefully, by people with leisure, it is an art, nature does not enter it.' Nancy Mitford The Pursuit of Love
I love the way this quote talks about carefulness and leisure - yes it does take care and time to build up friendships. I wonder where this blog will lead to as I tentatively dip my painted toenail into the vast ocean that's out there.